The base of Parent’s acceptance for their children is Unconditional.

A small baby has newly joined the family. Parents are very happy. They have been waiting for this moment since a long time. They already have many desires, thoughts and hopes associated with this child. This child has brought new dimension of happiness to parents. Child’s innocent face, closed eyes, small hands and legs become source of ultimate happiness for them. Daily many people come to house to see small baby, parents feel very happy showing the child.

They spend their whole time and energy thinking and taking care of the baby. He wakes up any time in the night and starts crying, parents also get up and take care of him. They do not sleep until he sleeps, they get up as soon as he gets up. They attend him as soon as he starts crying because of any reason. Now they have reduced going outside much since they have to take care of child. It gives them more happiness than enjoying something outside. Even on holidays playing with child is the major activity they are involved in. His every new activity gives them extreme joy. If he speaks anything new it makes them really happy. His gestures, his actions, the way he makes his face on various situations, the way he reacts to various situations and everything he does makes them really happy.

He starts going to school and a new schedule is introduced for parents also. They get up early, wake him up, prepare breakfast for him, dress him for school, drop him to school or to the bus stop and then they get back to their work. When he comes back from school attend him, help him in his homework, understand his problems and spend time with him. This keeps happening in his entire schooling.

When he comes to a higher standard parents start thinking about his career. What they want him to become, what he is liking etc. If it is required to send him outside home to some distant place for studies they are ready for it for the sake of a good career of their child. It is really painful for them but they do that. Even after sending him away they keep taking care of him completely. They call him, they try to understand his problems, they are even ready to come to the place of child and spend as much time with him as he wants.

As child grows, he sometimes even contradicts, behaves badly with his parents. They bear it. Even if they get angry the acceptance is restored within no time. Base of their acceptance is unconditional. Kid’s goals become their goals, kids aspirations become their aspirations. Even if their is a conflict between the aspiratins of kid and parents dreams for kid, they try to make him understand various pros and cons of various things and if he doesn’t understand they ultimately succumb to him, while maintaining their acceptance. It might take some time but acceptance is restored again.

I have been appreciating this aspect of parents children relationships since a long time and thought of writing this post. It really amazes me when I see the beauty of this relationship. I remember many incidents in my own life as well as many many cases with others too, related to this unconditional aspect of parent children relationships.

Generally we do not like to be judged by others. When somebody judges us and that also wrongly then it hurts us,  especially people whom we consider important or whom we consider close to us or like.

We see that we interact with several people, we talk to several people. Sometimes it so happens that other person behaves with us in a strange way or says something with which we feel that we are being wrongly evaluated or our intention is under doubt or something bad is being thought about us, then this thing makes us unhappy. We want other person to think about us right or good again. We want him to rightly evaluate us again. We even sometimes get away from that person, but this thing keeps pricking us within ourselves that we are being wrongly evaluated by other person. When we confront that person we become self-concious. Again that thought of being wrongly evaluated comes into our mind. Our heart beat frequency increases. If we realize that other person is doing that or did that intentionally then we get angry. We want to teach a lesson to other person.

We see that all these things keep happening, but the question remains, why is it happening?

A human being wants Unconditional Acceptance from other person. We expect other person to never doubt our intentions, we want him to rightly evaluate us always. When this thing happens we feel good. When this does not happen we feel bad. This expectation of unconditional acceptance can be easily observed in our close relatives, people whom we consider close to us, people whom we like. Even a slight behavior change in them gives rise to 1000s of questions within us. We always want at least one person with whom we have assurance that he is there for me no matter what, he will be there for me no matter what.

We see that this expectation is there. When this expectation is fulfilled a human being feels really happy. When it is not getting fulfilled he is in search of somebody who can fulfill it. When we feel that from a person with whom this expectation was getting fulfilled since a long time, now it is not getting fulfilled then, we get really hurt. We want other person to accept us again the same way on any cost.

This expectation of Unconditional Acceptance is always present within us. It is Ever Actively Present. It is not something which is optional. It is not something which can be suppressed. It is there. We can only identify the root cause behind it and just can serve this expectation the right way. There is no way out of it.

Unconditional Acceptance means, Unconditional Trust and Unconditional Respect.

We feel that we are being Trusted Unconditionally when we have assurance that other person Trusts our intention. Other person doesn’t doubt our intention and will never doubt our intention.

We feel that we are being Respected Unconditionally when we have assurance that other person Evaluates us Rightly and will keep on Evaluating us Rightly.

A human being from birth has this expectation of Unconditional Acceptance from others but lacks the competence to give it to the others. This is the root cause of all the human problems.

A human being can become competent to accept others Unconditionally only when he has Knowledge. With Knowledge one’s expectation for Unconditional Acceptance from others is also fulfilled and one is also able to accept others Unconditionally.

To understand Trust, Respect, Happiness etc. we need Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, complete understanding related to,
Self,
Family,
Society,
Nature.

हर व्यक्ति स्वयं में इसी विश्वास के साथ जीना चाहता है कि, “मैं सही हूँ, मैं अच्छा हूँ”| यह विश्वास का भाव मनुष्य की मूल आवश्यकता है| यह एक ऐसी आवश्यकता है जो उसमें निरंतर बनी रहती है| जब भी उसे किसी भी कारण से ऐसा लगता है कि मैं अच्छा नहीं हूँ, मैं सही नहीं हूँ तो वह परेशान हो जाता है और जब उसमें यह विश्वास बना रहता है तो वह खुश रहता है| स्वयं मे इस विश्वास के भाव की आवश्यकता मनुष्य की भोजन की आवश्यकता से बिल्कुल अलग है| भोजन तो मनुष्य को दिन मे ३ वक्त चाहिए होता है, पर इस विश्वास के भाव की आवश्यकता मनुष्य मे निरंतर, नित्य, समान तीव्रता से बनी रहती है| बल्कि ऐसा भी देखने में आता है कि अगर ये विश्वास के भाव की मुझ में कमी हो तो मुझे भोजन भी अच्छा नहीं लगता| कितना भी स्वादिष्ट भोजन मेरे समक्ष रखा हो मुझे नीरस लगने लगता है| मेरा सारा ध्यान उस विश्वास के भाव को दोबारा सुनिश्चित करने की तरफ़ लगा रहता है|

अक्सर ऐसा देखने में आता है कि हमारे अन्दर इस विश्वास का आधार कि “मैं सही हूँ, मैं अच्छा हूँ”, दूसरे व्यक्ति का हमारे प्रति नज़रिया, बना रहता है| जब दूसरे व्यक्ति का नज़रिया हमारे प्रति अच्छा होता है तो हमें स्वयं में इस विश्वास का अनुभव होता है कि “हम सही हैं, हम अच्छे हैं” और जब उसका नज़रिया हमारे प्रति अच्छा नहीं होता तो हम स्वयं में अच्छा महसूस नहीं करते और परेशान हो जाते हैं| अक्सर ऐसा भी होता है कि जब हमें लगता है कि दूसरे व्यक्ति का नज़रिया हमारे प्रति अच्छा नहीं है या दूसरा व्यक्ति हमारे बारे में अच्छा नहीं सोचता तब भी हम परेशान हो जाते हैं| इसमें ऐसा भी हो सकता है कि दूसरा व्यक्ति तो हमारे बारे में अच्छा सोचता हो पर हमें लग रहा हो कि कुछ गड़बड़ है| जैसा कि पहले ही हम देख चुके हैं कि यह विश्वास की आवश्यकता तो निरंतर बनी ही रहती है, तो इस तरह की परिस्थिति में अपने विश्वास को दोबारा से पाने के लिए हम कई तरह के काम करने कि कोशिश करते हैं, जैसे दूसरे व्यक्ति से दूर हो जाना, दूसरे व्यक्ति के प्रति मेरे भाव में कमी आ जाना, दूसरे व्यक्ति से बात कर के मामले को सुलझा लेने की कोशिश करना, दूसरे व्यक्ति से बात करने की कोशिश करना और यह सुनिश्चित करना कि सब पहले जैसा हो जाए, दूसरे व्यक्ति को अपनी नज़रों में ही नीचे गिरा देना ताकि उसके मेरे प्रति नज़रिए का कोई महत्व ही नहीं रह जाए, दूसरे व्यक्ति को मजा चखाने कि कोशिश करना ताकि मेरा विश्वास तो बढ ही जाए और दूसरा व्यक्ति उसकी ख़ुद कि नज़रों में भी नीचे गिर जाए और परेशान हो, और तो और कई बार हम दूसरे व्यक्ति को शारीरिक, आर्थिक, मानसिक रूप से भी नुक्सान पहुचाने की कोशिश करते हैं| इतना सब कुछ करते हैं हम अपने इस विश्वास कि आवश्यकता को पूरा करने और बनाये रखने के लिए और हमें पता भी नहीं चलता|

अगर हम ध्यान से देखें तो यह देखने में आता है कि इस विश्वास के भाव को सुनिश्चित करने के लिए ही हमारे अधिकतम कार्य व्यवहार हो रहे हैं| परीक्षा में अच्छे नंबर लाने का प्रयास, अधिक से अधिक धन कमाने का प्रयास, ऊंचे पद को पा लेने का प्रयास, दूसरों कि नज़रों में ऊपर उठने का प्रयास, किसी संस्था से जुड़ जाने का प्रयास, किसी प्रतिष्ठित व्यक्ति के सान्निध्य को पा लेने का प्रयास, दूसरे व्यक्ति को मजा चखाने का प्रयास, तीर्थ यात्रा करना, किसी धर्मं से जुड़ जाना, बड़ी बड़ी डिग्रियां पाने का प्रयास, किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति की तलाश जो हमें समझे, बहुत सारी किताबें पड़ के ज्ञानी बन जाने का प्रयास, दूसरों के समक्ष वैसे प्रस्तुत होना जैसे हम नहीं हैं, दूसरों से जीतने का प्रयास, प्रतियोगिताओं में प्रथम आने का प्रयास, किसी विदेशी व्यक्ति का सान्निध्य पाने का प्रयास, विदेश जाने का प्रयास, बहुत बड़ा घर बनाने का प्रयास, सुंदर साथी पाने का प्रयास, विशेष हो जाने का प्रयास इत्यादि, सभी में मूलतः तो स्वयं में विश्वास सुनिश्चित करने कि ही आशा है|

जिस भी वस्तु को हम जितना मूल्यवान मानते हैं उसे पाकर हम स्वयं में उतना ही विश्वास का अनुभव करते हैं|

जैसे अगर मैं किसी ऊंचे पद को बहुत महत्त्वपूर्ण मानता हूँ तो उसे पाकर मैं स्वयं मैं बहुत ही अच्छा महसूस करता हूँ, मेरे अन्दर यह भाव कि “मैं सही हूँ, मैं अच्छा हूँ” बहुत बलवती हो जाता है, मैं स्वयं मे विश्वास का अनुभव करता हूँ| उसी तरह से और भी बहुत सारे उदाहरण है जो पहले ही लिए जा चुके हैं|

यहाँ पर प्रश्न यह खड़ा होता है कि किसी भी वस्तु के मूल्य का निर्धारण मैं किस आधार पर करता हूँ? किस वस्तु को मैं अधिक मूल्यवान मानता हूँ और किसको कम?
यहाँ पर ऐसा देखने मे आता है कि, किसी भी वस्तु का मेरे लिए महत्व या मूल्य अक्सर तीन चीज़ों पर निर्भर करता है|
१. उस वस्तु के रंग, रूप, आकार, रस, सुगंध, स्पर्श आदि से मुझे मिलने वाले सुख के आधार पर|
२. मेरे उस वस्तु के साथ मे जुड़ जाने पर मैंने अपने मूल्य/महत्व मे जिस वृद्धि का अनुमान लगाया रहता है, उसके आधार पर|
३. उपरोक्त दोनों बिन्दुओं के साथ में होने पर| उनके सम्मिलित प्रभाव के आधार पर|

जैसे सोना| सोना मुझे देखने में भी सुंदर लगता है और जब मैं उससे बने हुए गहने पहन कर लोगों के समक्ष प्रस्तुत होता हूँ तो वे मुझ पर ध्यान देते हैं, मेरी तारीफ करते हैं, मुझे स्वयं में यह महसूस होता है कि “मैं अच्छा हूँ” और यह भाव मेरे सुख में वृद्धि करता है| यह हमारे साथ हमारे जीने के हर आयाम में होता है| जब भी मैं स्वयं को किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति के साथ में पाता हूँ जिसको मैं महत्त्वपूर्ण मानता हूँ तो मुझे अच्छा लगता है, मैं अपनी पहचान उस व्यक्ति के साथ जोड़ कर बनाने लगता हूँ, मुझे स्वयं मैं भी “महत्त्वपूर्ण” महसूस होता है जो मेरे सुख का कारण बनता है| यहाँ पर उदाहरण के तौर पर ले सकते हैं कि किसी बड़े नेता या फ़िल्म अभिनेता, अभिनेत्री आदि के साथ फोटो खिंचवाना, उनके दस्तखत लेना इत्यादि|  लड़के लड़कियों के एक दूसरे के प्रति आकर्षित होने में भी यही तथ्य है|

यहाँ पर यह भी देखने मे आता है कि उपरोक्त बताये गए पहले २ बिन्दुओं मे से दूसरा बिन्दु प्रधान है| अगर किसी वस्तु से मेरे महत्व मे वृद्धि हो रही हो तो उस वस्तु से जुड़े दूसरे पक्ष मेरे लिए स्थूल हो जाते हैं| जैसे कई लोग शराब इसलिए पीते हैं क्योकि  उन्हें लगता है शराब पीने से उन्हें ऊँची सोसायटी का माना जायेगा, उन्हें ऊंचा देखा जायेगा| इसके कारण वे शराब के कड़वे स्वाद में भी आनंद ले लेते हैं| शराब का कड़वा स्वाद भी उन्हें रस देने लगता है| अभी कुछ ही दिनों पहले मैंने टी वी पर देखा कि किसी जंगल के कबीले के लोग अपने पूरे शरीर को ब्लेड से जगह जगह से खंरोचते हैं और इस प्रक्रिया में उनका पूरा शरीर खून से लत्पत हो जाता है, पर फिर भी वे यह करते हैं क्योकि उनके कबीले में इस क्रिया को बहुत ही बड़ी पध्वी प्राप्त है| इसे वे लोग बहुत ही ऊंची चीज़ मानते हैं| यहाँ पर भी यही देखने में आता है कि भाव पक्ष को सुनिश्चित करने के लिए इंसान किसी भी हद तक आमादा हो सकता है| “में सही हूँ, मैं अच्छा हूँ” इस भाव को सुनिश्चित करने के लिए ही सह सब हो रहा है|

यहाँ पर यह भी देखने में आता है कि हम जितने भी तरीके इस्तेमाल करते हैं इस भाव को सुनिश्चित करने के लिए उनमें से किसी भी तरीके से उस भाव कि निश्चितता, स्थिरता और निरंतरता सुनिश्चित नहीं हो पाती| जबकि इंसान को उस भाव कि निरंतरता चाहिए| यहाँ पर यह जानना अंत्यंत ही जरूरी हो जाता है कि इस भाव कि निरंतरता की चाहना के मूल में क्या है? यह चाहना क्यूँ है? इस चाहना का प्रयोजन क्या है? यहाँ पर यही समझ में आता है की मानव को सुखी होकर के जीने के लिए लिए ज्ञान चाहिए| ज्ञान का अर्थ है स्वयं में स्वयं तथा अस्तित्व का ज्ञान| स्वयं में स्वयं के ज्ञान के अभाव में हम स्वयं को उस तरह से पहचानते हैं जिस तरह से हमें अन्य लोग देखते हैं| हम अपनी पहचान विभिन्न वस्तुओं के आधार पर बना लेते हैं, जैसे रूप, धन, पद, बल, बुद्धि आदि| हमारी जिस वस्तु के प्रति जैसी मान्यता रहती है उस वस्तु से जुड़ कर हम वैसा ही महसूस करते हैं| हमारी उस वस्तु के प्रति जो मान्यता है उसका आधार भी अन्य लोगों में प्रचलित मान्यता ही रहता है| उस तरह की मान्यता में स्थिरता, निरंतरता नहीं रहती| जैसे ऊंचे पद पर विराजमान हो जाने पर भी मुझे अन्य लोग नित्य सम्मान की दृष्टि से नहीं देखते रहते और अगर देख भी रहे हों तो भी मुझे निरंतर तृप्ति नहीं मिल पाती, मुझे निरंतर उन लोगों का ध्यान पाने के लिए कुछ न कुछ परिवर्तन लाने की आवश्यकता महसूस होती है और अगर उस पद की लोगों में पहचान ही कम हो जाए, वे उसको पहले से कम महत्व देने लगें तो में स्वयं को कम महत्त्वपूर्ण महसूस करने लगता हूँ, मेरा विश्वास डगमगा जाता है|  यहाँ पर से यह सिद्ध हो जाता है कि स्वयं में विश्वास ही स्वयं में सुख है और मनुष्य को उस विश्वास कि नित्य आवश्यकता है| यह आवश्यकता ज्ञान से ही पूरी हो सकती है|

This is what our imagination is filled with, today!

In fact if we look closely then it is not even all those balloons which define our imagination. It is limited to mostly the Right Part of the picture i.e. Sex, Career, Movies, Music, World Tours, Luxury, Comfort etc. Mostly it is the right part of the picture we think about, we dream about, we aspire to achieve, we appreciate, is our goal and we recognize ourselves with!

When in groups or even alone we discuss or think about our Career, what we want to become in our lives, how we are progressing towards our career goal, what the current trends are, how easily we can grow in the career we are aspiring to make for ourselves etc. OR we discuss various new Movies currently in market, which new movies are coming, what is new in any new movie etc. OR  Music OR Sex OR World Tours OR Hotels OR Different Places which can be visited and this list is endless.

Parallely we also keep thinking Partially about balloons on the Left Part of the picture. What people around me think about me? Whether people around me Trust me or not? How do I look to my comrades? Am I recognized among people around me or not? Whether people in my close relationships evaluate me rightly or not? etc. If we feel that other person with whom we are spending time is not of our kind then we start feeling repulsion and find out some other person to spend time with. If we feel that a person with whom we have spent a long time and shared a good friendship has got some doubts in his mind for us then we try to convince him that things are not the way he is taking them or something similar and try to get the relationship back to normal. Even if we do not try to get the relationship back to normal through our actions but our expectation is always that the things become normal. When we confront a person with whom we feel that he doesn’t think good about us then this thing pricks us. All these things keep happening with all of us whether we pay attention to them or not.

In fact if we see closely then we find that the Desires/Expectations/Questions related to the balloons on the Left Side of the picture are Dominating and are Ever Actively Present/Working.

When we feel that we are not being rightly evaluated by people around  us or our intention is under doubt by people around us then our complete attention remains on the those people only. We always keep on evaluating ourselves and themselves and things which would have made them to wrongly evaluate us and we are always in the process to prove ourselves right in our eyes or we sometimes even fight with them to prove them wrong! We do not even enjoy things on the right side of the picture when we are this kind of situation. We do not enjoy music, movies, luxury, comfort and even we find ourselves unable to concentrate on things related to our career.  If we feel that there are no problems in the desires related to the Left Part of the picture then we are able to enjoy things on the right part without any problem. In fact in this case even if we do not have much of things on the Right Side of the picture then it is fine, but if there are problems in the desires/expectations related to the Left Part of the picture then we generally try to fill that void with the things on the Right Side of the picture and it becomes essential for us to have things on the Right Side to fill that void.

When our desires/expectations related to Left Side are being fulfilled we do not even come to know and when they are not being fulfilled we find some substitute for them from the Right Side, which doesn’t substitute it for long and problem persists!

If we observe closely then generally we try to ensure things related to Left Part of the picture with the Right Part of it. We feel that with good career, comfort, luxury, position, power, beauty etc. we will start looking good to people around us, we will get respect, we will get recognition, our relationships with people will improve and many other things. Our possessions become our basis of Respect and Trust with people around us. If we feel lack of possessions then we feel that we lack value in society and come under pressure. If we have a lot of possessions and a lot of value in the society and we find that it is going to shake then we get terrified due to fear of loosing Respect and Trust of people around. I have seen many examples when people did suicide when they got 2nd rank in exam because they have been getting 1st since ages and there are many more examples like this.

If we notice then the desires which are on the Left Side of the picture are Continuous within us with respect to Time. The basic desire behind the questions on the Left Side of the picture is of willingness to live with Trust and Respect. We want to live with Trust and Respect continuously. This willingness to live with Trust and Respect is there within us Continuously and is Ever Actively Present. There is never a time when I do not expect people around me to Trust me and there is never a time when I do not expect people around me to Rightly Evaluate me or Respect me!

Due to lack of understanding of Trust, Respect and Happiness we try to fulfill desires on the Left Side with the Right Part of the picture and it doesn’t fulfill it.

Generally we recognize ourselves with “something outside us”. We recognize ourselves with our Position, Power, Money, Beauty, Intellect and many more things. When I recognize myself with something like this then I expect others around me to look at me the way I look at myself. If I feel that I am beautiful then I expect others around me to recognize this fact that I am beautiful and to look up at me, similarly if I am positionful, powerful, moneyful or even if I feel that I am intellectually mature then I expect others around me to recognize me as a positionful, powerful, moneyful or an intellectually mature person. When they do it I feel Respected, I feel good with them, I feel related with them. When they do not do it then I feel disrespected, I feel bad, I feel a kind of repulsion/opposition with them.

When there is mismatch in My Perception towards Myself and Others Perception towards Myself then it hurts me and in Most of the cases we spend our energies to change others perception towards us, either by hook or by crook or even by violence! This is where we all or in fact entire world is!

In reality what need to be changed is our own perception towards ourselves. It is lack of understanding of ourselves about ourselves is the root cause of all our problems.

To understand Trust, Respect, Happiness etc. we need Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, complete understanding related to,
Self,
Family,
Society,
Nature.

So what makes a Beauty, to like a Beast?

Here, I will not make distinction of Beauty and Beast on the basis of gender. Either of a Boy or a Girl can be a Beauty or a Beast.

So question is, what makes a Beauty to like a Beast? Here this notion of Liking need to be analyzed. Generally it is seen that this liking  is governed by two factors. Liking on the basis of Bodily Aspects, Liking on the basis of Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior towards us. Our liking towards a particular person might be on the basis of first or second or both the factors together!

Generally it is found that Liking on the basis of second factor i.e. Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior is Dominating. This can be seen in several examples, situations. Following are some.

1. When we find Bodily Aspects of Beauty as per our Expectations then we get Attracted towards it but when we find that Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior of that Beauty are not as per our Expectations then we start feeling Repulsion and the beauty of that Beauty on the basis of Bodily Aspects remains no longer Beautiful or Attractive to  us. In fact if we find that Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior of Beauty are bad as per our notions of bad, then we start seeing a beast in that Beauty!

2. We begin with Attraction or Liking on the basis of Bodily Aspects of Beauty. When we spend some time with Beauty and find its Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior as per our Expectations then our Attention start shifting from Bodily Aspects to Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior. Liking because of second factor start Dominating. We start feeling good in the company of Beauty. Now the notions of beauty are changed. We start seeing beauty or start liking on the basis of Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior towards us, more than Bodily Aspects.

3. If we spend some time with a person who is not beautiful as per our notions of beauty of Bodily Aspects, but we find that Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior of that person are as per our notions of good or as per our Expectations, then we start seeing beauty in that person. This kind of beauty even overpasses the beastliness of the Bodily Aspects. Here also we see that second factor i.e. Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior of the person towards us Dominate over Bodily Aspects.

Here we see that second factor i.e. Thoughts, Feelings and Behavior of other person towards us gives us more happiness for more time than the first factor i.e. Bodily Aspects. We see that it is happening, but why it is happening?

In case of Humans, Feeling Component is Dominant and is Ever Actively Working (मनुष्य में भाव पक्ष प्रधान रहता है, तथा नित्य प्रभावी रहता है). A human being wants Unconditional Acceptance from other other person. We can notice that this Expectation of Unconditional Acceptance at least from  people whom we consider close to us, is Ever Actively Present. Whenever we feel that some doubt has come in the mind of person who is close to me then it is not tolerable to me. Unconditional Acceptance means, Unconditional Trust and Unconditional Respect. We expect other person to Trust us Unconditionally, to Respect us Unconditionally i.e. to Evaluate us Rightly always. When we see or feel that these conditions are being satisfied by other person i.e. when we see that other person has started Trusting  us Unconditionally, other person feels good about us, other person has good thoughts, other person understands us and when we start getting assurance that other person will keep on Trusting us Unconditionally, will keep on Evaluating us Rightly Always then it makes us feel really good, it makes us very Happy. We start undermining most of other aspects like cast, creed, religion, bodily aspects and many others!

Mostly in current scenario it happens that we undermine Feeling Component over Bodily Aspects and hastily indulge into commitments. But Feeling Component is Naturally Dominant. One who gave more priority to Bodily Aspects in past once is Satisfied by it, then he starts looking for satisfaction of Feeling Component i.e. Unconditional Trust and Respect. When this Feeling Component is not satisfied then he start seeing a Beast in the Beauty and it leads to several problems in relationships thereafter. We already see many examples of such things almost daily in our society like divorces, court cases, quarrels and even murders!

Generally we feel that by the satisfaction of Bodily Aspects we will be able to ensure Satisfaction of Feeling Component. In most of the cases we are not even aware of this Feeling Component, which is in reality, Dominant !

In some cases even if we are aware of existence Feeling Component, we lack clarity into it so we expect other person to Accept us Unconditionally in our own style or our own way and ultimately we start putting conditions on other person knowingly or unknowingly with which other person start feeling violated and problem persists.

So it is ultimately the Lack of Understanding which is the problem.

Lack of Understanding of Whom is causing the problem? Lack of Understanding “in” Ourselves!

Lack of Understanding of What is causing the problem ? Lack of Understanding “of” Ourselves!

So it is Lack of Understanding of a Human of Him Himself is causing the problem and not the lack of understanding of a Human of Other Human Being.

To understand Trust, Respect, Happiness, Relationships etc. we need Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, understanding related to:-
Self
Family
Society
Nature.

Yes I am talking about the Golconda fort at Hyderabad. This post is not about history or any good scenery at Golconda, but something else.

I visited Golconda fort twice. This post is about the description of the difference between those two visits.

First visit to Golconda fort:-

I was in first year when I went to Golconda fort, for the first time. I went there with my parents. As soon as we entered the place we found several “Guides” pursing us to hire them to visit the fort. We asked a few of them the cost and found it very high so we did not hire them. We entered the fort, went through the entirety of it and came out.

We enjoyed the trip.

Second visit to Golconda fort:-

Second time I went to the fort with my Mama jee and Mausi jee. Same thing happened the second time, several “Guides” started pursuing us to hire them to visit the fort. I told to my Mama jee and Mausi jee “These guides demand so much, do not hire them”. They said, “Its good to hire a guide while seeing any historical place” and they were ready to pay Guide the money which he was ready for, after some bargain. We entered the fort with a Guide. He started explaining us each and everything about the fort. Each and every “What”, “Why” and “How” he explained us about the fort. He explained why the entrance of the fort is curved so that the enemy does not attack with full momentum. Why there is a wall in front of entrance, what happens when we clap at the dome after entrance, why the walls are constructed the way they are constructed, why is everything the way it is, what happens when you speak near a wall in one of the room and you hear the sound through wall at the other end and many many more things.Ultimately we came out of the fort in 2 hours.

The trip was amazing!

Difference between first and second visit:-

The thing which I saw in the first time was just some “old walls”, “good scenery”, “how things used to be in old times”.

The thing which I saw in the second time was of course those “old walls”, “good scenery”, “how things used to be in old times” but in addition “a amazing work of civil engineering”, “how well constructed the fort is”, “how well organized the things were”, “how much intellectual and physical effort has been put up in the construction of the fort”, “how they used to consider various aspects like wars, strength of buildings, resource utilization, etc.”, “how they used to communicate and how those buildings used to help them to communicate”, “why the walls are constructed the way they are constructed” and many many many more things.

In the first time I could not appreciate it much. In second trip I could not stop myself appreciating it for many many days and even till now.

After my first visit I never used to suggest anybody to visit Golconda fort, I used to feel that there are better places to visit. After second trip I always take people to Golconda.

Crux of this post:-

Here I took Golconda just as an example. There may be many more things in Golconda to appreciate which I might have missed. Discussing Golconda is not the issue for me to discuss in this post!Issue is something else.

I was able to appreciate Golconda after my second trip when I understood “What”, “Why” and “How” behind various things. I was amazed to “see” the beauty of Golconda. In the first time I saw just what I could see through my eyes. In the second time I saw things which I could not “see” just through my eyes. I saw something more than what I could see through eyes and that made me to appreciate the real beauty.

This thing applies to our daily life also. We miss several things, we do not appreciate a several things, we do not get amazed to see several things because we do not know “What”, “Why” and “How” behind them. When we begin to understand or “see” “What”, “Why” and “How” about a particular thing we begin to appreciate it.

Just as an example, it really amazes me when “I see” that a human being wants to live with Happiness. This need of Happiness in a human being is always present with the same intensity and it never decreases with time. It is inexhaustible. It is ever actively present. A human being wants Certainty, Consistency and Continuity of Happiness. A human being want to live with feeling of Trust and Respect in Relationships and these things are same for every human being without any exception. All the works of a human being are happening to ensure the same purpose i.e. Happiness. This makes me to appreciate a human being. Similarly when I see/understand some more things/realities about an animal I begin to appreciate an animal. Similarly a Tree, a Stone. How well organized all the things are! How mutually-fulfilling entire nature is!

When we do not know “What”, “Why” and “How” about various things, what we see is what is there is front of our eyes. When we begin to understand “What”, “Why” and “How” behind various things we begin to see more than what our eyes can see and that makes us appreciate various things, that makes us feel really good about the well organization of various things, that brings more certainty in our feeling towards various things, which ultimately leads towards continuous happiness.

To understand, appreciate various things and feel Happy we need, Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, understanding related to:-
Self
Family
Society
Nature.

What do we appreciate? We appreciate several things. We appreciate a good degree, a good house, money, power, position, beauty and many more things. We aspire to get, whatever we appreciate and we feel good when we get it. It boosts our confidence, gives us happiness when we get what we appreciate.

The things which we appreciate contribute to our ambitions, goals. We even spend our entire lives for it.

What we really want? We want continuous Happiness. We want Certainty, Consistency and Continuity of Happiness. This thing can be verified by anybody.

Generally we feel that by the thing which we appreciate (beauty, power, position, money etc) we will get what we really want (Continuous Happiness), that’s why we appreciate it.

Generally a human being wants/desires for more than what he appreciates. A human being wants

Happiness + Relationships + Prosperity + Continuity of these 3.

We are generally not aware of what exactly we want so our scope of things which we appreciate is limited. This thing can be seen with a very small example. When our relationships are not going well, when there are contradictions within, when there are tensions in life in spite of having things what we appreciate, then we do not go to a beautiful person, we do not go to a powerful person, we do not go to a positionful person, but we go to a person with whom we have assurance that, that person will understand my problem, will be able to appreciate my problem and will also be able to give me solution to my problem. We go to a Knowledgeful person.

So, is what we appreciate is going to give us what we really want? If NO, then what is?

It is, Knowledge.

It is only Knowledge which can ensure Continuity of Happiness or what I really want.

Knowledge includes, understanding related to:-
Self,
Family,
Society,
Nature

We see that we interact with several people. We feel related to several people. We like several people. When we spend some time with people whom we like then we generally develop a kind of more liking for them. When that liking goes beyond a particular threshold and other person becomes a source of happiness for us then we start calling that liking as Love.

Generally we start liking other person when that person suits to our preferences, likings and dislikings. When we get in touch with that person we feel good. With more and more time when I start getting assurance with the person that he evaluates me rightly, he feels good about me, he doesn’t doubt my intentions, he trusts me, he understands me and he has accepted me unconditionally then he starts becoming a source of happiness for me and with increase in the intensity of this feeling, I feel that I love that person.

Now here the problem starts.

In this wayof loving other person we expect other person to remain as he is now. I expect him to have same view towards me forever, I expect him to feel “good” about me with my own definition of “good”, I expect him to never doubt my intentions, I expect him to always evaluate me rightly, I expect him to keep accepting me unconditionally forever, I can not tolerate any change in the feeling, thoughts, behavior of other person towards me! If this happens even slightly it hurts me terribly. I can not tolerate that feeling of hurt and want other person to become same with me and remain same with me forever.

Even a small comment or slight behavior change in other person towards me gives rise to 1000s of questions within me. “Why is he doing like this?”, “What happened to him?”, “He was not like this”, “Probably he interpreted my previous actions in some wrong way” and many such more questions keep on troubling me. I get a fear of being wrongly evaluated. I can not tolerate it. I want other person to evaluate me rightly again. I want him to have same view about me which he had in past. The doubt which I have got in my mind for other person due to his change in behavior or comment makes me to reevaluate all my previous interactions with him. I start doubting him in all my previous interactions with him, I start feeling guilty for even slight mistakes I made in past with him. If I get a doubt on the intentions of other person then I start doubting his every action and in fact all previous interactions. This keeps happening with me till the time I am satisfied within myself with a conclusion for other person or I talk to other person to resolve the issue and this entire process is always very painful.

The way we love/like generally, the feeling which we develop over some time for other person is totally conditional. In this way we put several walls around other person and expect him to remain in those walls forever. Even the starting of our love is from conditions. When our conditions are fulfilled we start liking and then loving other person. This kind of love snatches our own freedom and the freedom of other person too whom we love.

In our current notions of love we hurt ourselves and hurt other person too. It also gives rise to many other problems. When we see that the person we love start paying attention to some other person more than us then we start feeling jealous, a feeling of hatred and opposition for that person start coming within us. When we see that the person we love is not able to return or respond back to us the way we want then we get hurt. If it continues for long then the feeling of love which we had start converting into a feeling of hatred.

In our current notions of love there is possessiveness, belongingness, “mine” and “yours”. I say that I love my parents because I consider them mine. If I come to know today that I am not their real child and I was adopted when I was a kid then my feeling for them might vanish/decrease in a fraction of seconds! I love other person when I consider him “mine”. When those notions of “mine” are changed then my feeling for those who have been “mine” is changed. See how much conditional our feeling is and we expect others to love us unconditionally!

What we consider currently as Love is actually NOT Love, it is Attachment!

Attachment is always conditional. Attachment always gives rise to negative feelings like jealousy/hatred/opposition etc. Attachment is not free from “mine” and “yours”. Attachment demands physical presence of other person. Attachment takes away our freedom and the freedom of other person too. Attachment makes us slave of other person. Attachment demands conformity/assurance from other person of response as per my notions of good, as per my preferences. Attachment is nothing but Violence and unfortunately we all are part of it. Attachment involves tremendous expectations from other person. Attachment involves dependency. Attachment is a liking on the basis of conditions which we ourselves are not aware of!

Love actually on the other hand is Unconditional. Love does not demand. Love doesn’t require physical presence of other person. Love is free from “mine” and “yours”. Love gives freedom to other person and liberates ourselves too. Love is unconditional liking for other person. It doesn’t expect anything in return. Love is “Ahimsa” (Non-Violence). Love is “Karuna”. Love is independent of our preferences, likings and dislikings. Love is not dependent on what other person has but is actually dependent on what a human being actually is! Love is invariant, unchanging feeling for other person independent of what may!

A human being naturally expects Certainty, Consistency and Continuity of Happiness in every dimension of his living. He doesn’t want any kind of dependency of his happiness on anything. Any kind of dependency violates Consistency and Continuity of Happiness which is not desirable to a human being. Attachment involves dependency of Happiness. Love is Continuity of Happiness.

With lack of understanding of Happiness we indulge into Attachment. With increase in Understanding of what Happiness actually is, we start moving towards Love.

To understand Relationships, Happiness, Trust, Respect, Love etc. we need knowledge. Knowledge includes understanding related to:-
Self
Family
Society
Nature

मानव का स्वभाव सुखी हो कर के जीने का है|  मानव निरंतर सुख चाहता है, हर क्षण सुख चाहता है| ऐसा एक भी क्षण नहीं जब मानव सुख नहीं चाहता| जब मानव सुखी होता है तब वह उसी स्थिति में रहना चाहता है, जब वह दुखी होता है तब वह उस स्थिति से बाहर आ कर के वापस से सुखी हो जाना चाहता है| इससे यह सिद्ध होता है की सुख, केवल सुख, निरंतर सुख ही  मानव की सहज वांछा है| मावन अपने जीवन में सुख की निश्चितता, स्थिरता और निरंतरता चाहता है|

मानव का हर कार्य सुखी होने के लिए सम्पन्न हो रहा है, भले ही वह इस तथ्य से अवगत हो या नहीं| हर काम इंसान सुखी होने या हो जाने के उद्देश्य से ही कर रहा है| हम सुखी होने या हो जाने के लिए कई तरह के प्रयास करते हैं| गाने सुन लेना, चलचित्र देख लेना, दोस्तों के साथ बातें कर लेना, एक्साम में अच्छे नंबर लाना, माता पिता की अपेक्षाओं को पूरा करना, अपनी अपेक्षाओं को पूरा करना, बड़ी बड़ी परीक्षाओं में अच्छे अंकों से उत्तीर्ण होना, अच्छे कोलेजों में दाखिला लेना, पी.एच.डी करना, अच्छी नौकरी पाना, ज्यादा से ज्यादा पैसे कमाना, बड़ी गद्दी को पा लेना और भी बहुत कुछ हम करते हैं और यह सब के मूल में सुख की ही आशा रहती है|

यहाँ पर यह देखने में आता है की हम सुख की आशापूर्ति के लिए या तो कुछ करने का प्रयास करते हैं या कुछ पाने का प्रयास करते हैं| जैसे गाने सुन कर के सुखी होना, चलचित्र देख कर के सुखी होना, दोस्तों के साथ समय बिता कर के सुखी होना इत्यादि| इसमें कुछ कर के सुखी होने की चाहना है| दूसरी तरफ़ आता है, कुछ पा कर के सुखी होने की आशा रखना| इसमें आता है, अगर मेरे परीक्षा में अच्छे नंबर आ गए तो मुझे सब शाबाशी देंगे, मेरी सब तारीफ करेंगे और मुझे अच्छा लगेगा और मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा| अगर मेरा अच्छा जॉब लग गया तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मेरी पी.एच.डी पूरी हो गई तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं उस प्रतियोगिता में जीत गया तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मेरी किसी अच्छी लड़की शादी हो गई तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मेरा एक बड़ा घर होगा तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मेरा बच्चा अच्छे जॉब में आ जाएगा तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं समाज में प्रतिष्ठा पा लूँगा तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं ऊंचे पद पर स्थापित हो जाऊंगा तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं धनवान हो गया तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं बलवान हो गया तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं रूपवान हो गया तो मैं सुखी जाऊंगा, अगर मैं यशवान हो गया तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, अगर मैं बुद्धिवान हो गया तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, इत्यादि| इस तरह से देखने मैं आता है की हमारे सारे के सारे काम के मूल मैं सुख और उसकी निरंतरता की ही चाहना है|

उपरोक्त व्याख्या में दो आयामों की चर्चा हुई, कुछ कर के सुखी होने का प्रयास और कुछ पाने की आशा में सुखी होने का प्रयास या कुछ पा कर के सुखी होने की आशा रखना| इस प्रकरण मे, मैं कुछ कर के सुखी होने के प्रयास के ऊपर चर्चा करूँगा| कुछ कर के सुखी होने के प्रयास में ऐसा देखने में आता है की उससे मिलने वाले सुख में निश्चितता, स्थिरता और निरंतरता नहीं आ पाती| जैसे कुछ देर गाने सुन के मैं बोर हो जाता हूँ, फिर मुझे कुछ और चाहिए होता है| कुछ देर दोस्तों से बात कर लेने के बाद मैं वापस से कुछ चेंज चाहता हूँ, कुछ नयापन चाहता हूँ| कुछ कर के सुखी होने के प्रयास मे ये नयेपन की चाहना बनी ही रहती है| नयेपन की चाहना का यही मतलब है कि मैं जो कर रहा हूँ उसमें मुझे कुछ देर के पश्चात् तृप्ति मिलना कम/बंद हो जाती है, इसीलिए मुझे तृप्ति के लिए किसी नए स्रोत कि तलाश रहती है| यहाँ पर एक चीज़ और भी आती है कि अगर किसी कारणवश मैं पहले से ही काफ़ी परेशान हूँ तो कुछ कर लेने से मुझे कुछ सामायिक आराम भले ही मिल जाए परन्तु तृप्ति नहीं मिल पाती| जैसे अगर मेरे किसी प्रिय मित्र से मेरी लड़ाई हो गई है तो जब तक मैं उस समस्या से बहार नहीं आ जाता, तब तक मुझे कुछ भी करने में आनंद नहीं आ पाता| तब ना तो मुझे गाने अच्छे लगते हैं, ना ही चलचित्र| हर समय मेरा ध्यान इसी ओर रहता है कि वापस से सब पहले जैसा अच्छा हो जाए| इससे यह सिद्ध होता है कि कुछ कर के सुखी होने के प्रयास में निश्चितता, स्थिरता और निरंतरता नहीं बनी रहती, जबकि एक मानव निरंतर सुख कि वांछा रखता है|

दूसरा आयाम रहता है, कुछ पा कर के सुखी होने कि आशा रखना| इसमें मेरी आशा यह बनी रहती है कि अगर मुझे फलानी वस्तु मिल गई तो मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा| इस तरह की आशा मे मुझे जब तक वह वस्तु नहीं मिलती तब तक मैं स्वयं मे आराम महसूस नहीं करता| बल्कि अगर मुझे कुछ इस तरह का विकल्प दिखता है कि जिसमें मुझे बिना कुछ करे ही वस्तु मिल जाए तो मे उस विकल्प को अपना लेना चाहता हूँ| जैसे, अगर मैं यह मानता हूँ कि परीक्षा मे अच्छे नंबर ला कर के मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा तो मेरे लिए पढने का उद्देश्य नंबर लाना ही रह जाता है| मेरा पढ़ाई मे मन नहीं लगता, मैं पड़ते समय दुखी रहता हूँ, जिसके कारण मुझे उसमें समय भी काफ़ी ज्यादा लगता है और अगर मुझे ऐसे विकल्प नज़र आते हैं कि जिनमें मुझे बिना पढ़े ही नंबर मिल जाएँ तो मैं उन विकल्पों को अपना लेना चाहता हूँ| जैसे, परीक्षा मे नक़ल करना, नकली प्रमाण पत्र बनवाना, इत्यादि| यहाँ पर देखने की बात यह है कि यहाँ पर मैंने ऐसा माना रहता है कि कुछ पा कर के मैं सुखी हो जाऊंगा, जिसके कारण उस चीज़ को पाने के लिए मे कुछ भी करने को तैयार हो जाता हूँ और जब तक मुझे वह चीज़ नहीं मिलती तब तक मैं स्वयं में तृप्ति महसूस नहीं करता| वह वस्तु मिल जाने के बाद भी मुझ मे यह भय बना रहता है कि वह वस्तु मेरे साथ बने रहेगी या नहीं! और यह भय दोबारा से मेरे दुखों का कारण बनता है| जैसे, अक्सर मुझे यह अच्छा लगता है जब मेरे आस पास के लोग मेरे बारे मे अच्छा सोचते हैं, मुझे ऊंचा देखते हैं| अब मेरा सारा ध्यान इस बात पर रहता है कि मैं कुछ ऐसा करूँ कि लोग मेरे बारे मे अच्छा सोचें| उसके लिए मैं वह सब भी करने को तैयार हो जाता हूँ जो मुझे अच्छा नहीं लगता| पर जो आज अच्छा देख रहा है वह कल अच्छा नहीं देखेगा| इसके कारण मेरे अन्दर हमेशा ही अपने सम्मान को खो देने का भय बना रहता है, जो मेरे दुःख का कारण बनता है| सम्मान जब तक मिला नहीं तब तक मैं उसे पाने कि चाह मे व्याकुल रहता हूँ और जब मिल गया तब मै उसके बने रहने कि चिंता मे लगा रहता हूँ और अगर वो बना भी रह रहा है तो वह मुझे कुछ समय के पश्चात् मुझे निरंतर तृप्ति देने मे पर्याप्त नहीं हो पाता, मुझे उससे भी कुछ अधिक कि आवश्यकता महसूस होती है| इससे यह स्पष्ट हो जाता है कि कुछ पा के सुखी होने के प्रयास मे भी सुख कि निश्चितता, स्थिरता, निरंतरता नहीं मिल पाती|

यहाँ पर यह बात काफ़ी महत्त्वपूर्ण हो जाती है की मानव निरंतर सुख चाहता है, इसलिए उसे सुख के किसी ऐसे स्रोत की आवश्यकता है जिसमें निरंतर सुख प्रदान करने का स्वभाव हो| ऐसे स्रोत कि आवश्यकता है जिससे सुख कि निश्चितता, स्थिरता, निरंतरता सुनिश्चित हो सके| ऐसा सुख का स्रोत समाधान ही है| स्वयं मे समाधान ही सुख है| समाधान से तात्पर्य है स्वयं मे स्वयं तथा अस्तित्व के प्रति ज्ञान|

कुछ कर के या कुछ पा कर के सुखी हो जायेंगे ऐसा नहीं होता है, सुखी तो इन्सान समाधान से ही होता है, समाधानित हो कर के इन्सान जो करता है उसे वह सुखपूर्वक कर सकता है|

This is not about any advertisement line. It is a short narration of a same incident on 3 different days.

Day1:-

I was going to my office. From Kothaguda to Hi.Tech city autowalla takes 4 Rs. I sat in Auto, reached Hi.Tech city, he asked me 4 Rs, I gave him.

Day2:-

I was not in good mood this day due to some reason.

I was going to my office. From Kotaguda to Hi.Tech city autowallas have increased the price to 5 Rs and I was unaware of it. I sat in Auto, reached Hi.Tech city, he asked me 5 Rs! I said, “Bhaiya 4 lagta hai”. He started shouting at me. Since I was not in good mood this day, his words increased the intensity of my bad mood. I was angry inside. I did not manifest my anger on him, but I wanted to! I gave him 5 Rs and left the place.

Day3:-

I was in very good mood this day.

I was going to my office. From Kotaguda to Hi.Tech city autowallas take 5 Rs. I sat in Auto, got down at half the distance from Hi.Tech city, he asked me 5 Rs! I said, “Bhaiya 4 lagta hai”. He started shouting at me. Since I was in good mood this day, his words did not affect me at all. My inside state did not change. I gave him 5 Rs and left the place. In fact if this day he would have asked me for 10 Rs for the same distance I would have given him without any problem.

There is something very important to see in here.

When I am in good mood, uncertainties of external environment doesn’t affect me much. If I am in bad mood and if my external environment is not according to my expectations then it really affects me.

So is it really the external environment which affects me? Is it really the external environment which is the cause of my problems? Is it really other person who is making me unhappy?

When a human being is unhappy inside, he expects his external environment to be certain according to his expectations. When a human being is happy inside, uncertainties of external environment does not really affect him, rather he is able to see the uncertainty from a distance i.e without getting himself affected by the problem and is able to empathize with other person if he is doing something wrong.

This is something which I feel is very important and is the root cause of the problems which we see within ourselves, in our family, in our relationships, in our society and even in nature.

A human being naturally expects Certainty, Consistency, Continuity of Happiness. When he is Happy within, he spreads and shares his happiness with others. When he is unhappy within he expects to get happiness from his environment, by expecting Certainty, Consistency and Continuity of external environment according to his all expectations.

This is the root cause of problems like domination, jealousy, hatred, opposition etc. which we see in the society and which we all do not want. But due to lack of understanding of the root cause of problem we keep blaming other person that other person is making me unhappy and other person should be corrected for my happiness. And the fact remains that even if the other person is corrected my possibility to get angry/jealous/hatred etc. with some other person remains available and if I get hurt with that some-other-person again then I want that some-other-person to be corrected. In this way we never take the responsibility of our own Happiness. We feel that it is other person’s responsibility to make me happy and we ourselves are unaware of this feeling/assumption.

Now the question comes, what is Happiness then? If my Happiness is dependent on my external environment then am I ever going to be Happy? So what is the solution?

Solution is, Knowledge.

It is the lack of understanding within an individual(ourselves) at all the levels of his/our living, is the root cause of all the problems which we see at all the levels of our living today.

It is Knowledge which helps us understanding, Happiness, Trust, Respect, Confidence etc. which are the basic requirement of a human being. In lack of understanding of these we tend to fulfill these requirements through other people around us and it gives rise to the situation like two beggers are trying to snatch the coins from each other’s bowl!

Since it starts from my own internal environment, how my external environment would be, so I said, “Ye andar ki baat hai”.

Knowledge includes, understanding related to,

Self
Family
Society
Nature