One of the scariest feeling one confronts is, loneliness. It is not dependent on whether there are people around you or not. You can be surrounded by many people who are taking care of you, whom you call your friends but still you might feel lonely. It doesn’t let you sleep, it wakes up with the fear of confrontation of new entire day, it kills you every moment. You do not find any pleasure in anything you see around. There is something which is missing and you do not know what that is. You keep spending your time browsing through your collection of movies, collection of books and keep roaming here and there but you do not understand what is missing and what you are searching for. Even a slight empathy by some other person who feels the same gives you immense joy, but even this joy is not permanent. Till the time you are with person who feels the same, you feel good and after that again you start feeling lonely. This feeling of deprivation which is coming out of loneliness becomes intolerable sometimes and you find yourself doing crazy things with people around and things around. You do not understand what you are doing but you have no other option.

You collect your friends go to some hotel and have good food or go to some other place where you feel you will have fun but even there you find that this feeling is chasing you. Your attention is always somewhere else. You do not find pleasure in the food, you do not enjoy the rides of amusement park, you do not get fun in anything. Even the taste of good food becomes tasteless, even the fun of rides in amusement park becomes meaningless. Friends, movies, music, pizza, burger or anything doesn’t give you what you really want!

In such a time if you feel that with some person this feeling or this thirst is getting quenched then you hold that person tightly. Not physically, but emotionally. He becomes a valuable person in your life. You can not afford to loose that person. You feel very comfortable with that person. You can share your feelings with that person. When that person is there around then you feel that the missing thing which you have been searching for, is being supplied to you. When he is not around then again the same feeling starts invading.

Does this happen with  you? In fact this is the problem with most of the youth today!

The questions which come here are:-

1. What is that missing thing which is causing this feeling of loneliness?

2. How can this void be filled?

Here at least we are able to see that this missing thing is not getting fulfilled by anything around. Not with pizza, burger, music, movies or any such thing. And even if it gets quenched with something for sometime, it is not getting quenched permanently. It comes again. You are also able to see that this feeling is there continuously. Need to quench this feeling is there within you continuously. It is some continuous need which need to be  recognized rightly and need to be fulfilled in the right way. You are also able to see that it is some emotional need. It is not a physical need. You are also able to identify that it is ever actively present in you.

It is the need for Trust and Respect. It is the need for Unconditional Acceptance within us from others.

When you feel that you have been unconditionally accepted from any person around you then you feel happy. At that time you feel that the void which you had within you since a long time is getting fulfilled. You feel very comfortable that time.

This need for Unconditional Acceptance is there in a human being by birth. It is Ever Actively Present/Working. It is not something which is optional. It is not something which can be suppressed. It just need to be recognized rightly and need to be served in right way.

Unconditional Acceptance means Unconditional Trust and Unconditional Respect.

At least one is able to see the possibility of it getting ensured in Relationships rather than other things, so it is the Relationships aspect which need to be understood. It is the Trust and Respect in Relationships which when ensured then this thirst is quenched. We feel that we are being Trusted when we we have assurance that other person has Trust on our intention and will keep on Trusting our intention. We feel that we are  being Respected when we have assurance that other person Rightly Evaluate us and will keep on Rightly Evaluate us.

When this feeling of Trust  and Respect is ensured within us then this feeling of Loneliness is gone. It is not about getting Trust and Respect from other person. It is about having Trust and Respect for other person.

To understand Trust, Respect and Unconditional Acceptance we need to  understand ourselves.

Unfortunately in our current society we are trained to mistrust and disrespect. When this is done one is bound get emotionally deprived. This emotional deprivation then becomes cause of several other problems in relationships, society and nature.

A human being by birth has this expectation of Unconditional Acceptance from others around him but is lacking competence to give it to others. When a human start becoming competent to give it to others then this feeling of loneliness starts going away.

So solution to this problem is again, Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, Understanding related to:-
Self
Family
Society
Nature

Starting is from the Self, rest is the expansion.