The base of Parent’s acceptance for their children is Unconditional.

A small baby has newly joined the family. Parents are very happy. They have been waiting for this moment since a long time. They already have many desires, thoughts and hopes associated with this child. This child has brought new dimension of happiness to parents. Child’s innocent face, closed eyes, small hands and legs become source of ultimate happiness for them. Daily many people come to house to see small baby, parents feel very happy showing the child.

They spend their whole time and energy thinking and taking care of the baby. He wakes up any time in the night and starts crying, parents also get up and take care of him. They do not sleep until he sleeps, they get up as soon as he gets up. They attend him as soon as he starts crying because of any reason. Now they have reduced going outside much since they have to take care of child. It gives them more happiness than enjoying something outside. Even on holidays playing with child is the major activity they are involved in. His every new activity gives them extreme joy. If he speaks anything new it makes them really happy. His gestures, his actions, the way he makes his face on various situations, the way he reacts to various situations and everything he does makes them really happy.

He starts going to school and a new schedule is introduced for parents also. They get up early, wake him up, prepare breakfast for him, dress him for school, drop him to school or to the bus stop and then they get back to their work. When he comes back from school attend him, help him in his homework, understand his problems and spend time with him. This keeps happening in his entire schooling.

When he comes to a higher standard parents start thinking about his career. What they want him to become, what he is liking etc. If it is required to send him outside home to some distant place for studies they are ready for it for the sake of a good career of their child. It is really painful for them but they do that. Even after sending him away they keep taking care of him completely. They call him, they try to understand his problems, they are even ready to come to the place of child and spend as much time with him as he wants.

As child grows, he sometimes even contradicts, behaves badly with his parents. They bear it. Even if they get angry the acceptance is restored within no time. Base of their acceptance is unconditional. Kid’s goals become their goals, kids aspirations become their aspirations. Even if their is a conflict between the aspiratins of kid and parents dreams for kid, they try to make him understand various pros and cons of various things and if he doesn’t understand they ultimately succumb to him, while maintaining their acceptance. It might take some time but acceptance is restored again.

I have been appreciating this aspect of parents children relationships since a long time and thought of writing this post. It really amazes me when I see the beauty of this relationship. I remember many incidents in my own life as well as many many cases with others too, related to this unconditional aspect of parent children relationships.