Generally we do not like to be judged by others. When somebody judges us and that also wrongly then it hurts us,  especially people whom we consider important or whom we consider close to us or like.

We see that we interact with several people, we talk to several people. Sometimes it so happens that other person behaves with us in a strange way or says something with which we feel that we are being wrongly evaluated or our intention is under doubt or something bad is being thought about us, then this thing makes us unhappy. We want other person to think about us right or good again. We want him to rightly evaluate us again. We even sometimes get away from that person, but this thing keeps pricking us within ourselves that we are being wrongly evaluated by other person. When we confront that person we become self-concious. Again that thought of being wrongly evaluated comes into our mind. Our heart beat frequency increases. If we realize that other person is doing that or did that intentionally then we get angry. We want to teach a lesson to other person.

We see that all these things keep happening, but the question remains, why is it happening?

A human being wants Unconditional Acceptance from other person. We expect other person to never doubt our intentions, we want him to rightly evaluate us always. When this thing happens we feel good. When this does not happen we feel bad. This expectation of unconditional acceptance can be easily observed in our close relatives, people whom we consider close to us, people whom we like. Even a slight behavior change in them gives rise to 1000s of questions within us. We always want at least one person with whom we have assurance that he is there for me no matter what, he will be there for me no matter what.

We see that this expectation is there. When this expectation is fulfilled a human being feels really happy. When it is not getting fulfilled he is in search of somebody who can fulfill it. When we feel that from a person with whom this expectation was getting fulfilled since a long time, now it is not getting fulfilled then, we get really hurt. We want other person to accept us again the same way on any cost.

This expectation of Unconditional Acceptance is always present within us. It is Ever Actively Present. It is not something which is optional. It is not something which can be suppressed. It is there. We can only identify the root cause behind it and just can serve this expectation the right way. There is no way out of it.

Unconditional Acceptance means, Unconditional Trust and Unconditional Respect.

We feel that we are being Trusted Unconditionally when we have assurance that other person Trusts our intention. Other person doesn’t doubt our intention and will never doubt our intention.

We feel that we are being Respected Unconditionally when we have assurance that other person Evaluates us Rightly and will keep on Evaluating us Rightly.

A human being from birth has this expectation of Unconditional Acceptance from others but lacks the competence to give it to the others. This is the root cause of all the human problems.

A human being can become competent to accept others Unconditionally only when he has Knowledge. With Knowledge one’s expectation for Unconditional Acceptance from others is also fulfilled and one is also able to accept others Unconditionally.

To understand Trust, Respect, Happiness etc. we need Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, complete understanding related to,
Self,
Family,
Society,
Nature.