This is what our imagination is filled with, today!

In fact if we look closely then it is not even all those balloons which define our imagination. It is limited to mostly the Right Part of the picture i.e. Sex, Career, Movies, Music, World Tours, Luxury, Comfort etc. Mostly it is the right part of the picture we think about, we dream about, we aspire to achieve, we appreciate, is our goal and we recognize ourselves with!

When in groups or even alone we discuss or think about our Career, what we want to become in our lives, how we are progressing towards our career goal, what the current trends are, how easily we can grow in the career we are aspiring to make for ourselves etc. OR we discuss various new Movies currently in market, which new movies are coming, what is new in any new movie etc. OR  Music OR Sex OR World Tours OR Hotels OR Different Places which can be visited and this list is endless.

Parallely we also keep thinking Partially about balloons on the Left Part of the picture. What people around me think about me? Whether people around me Trust me or not? How do I look to my comrades? Am I recognized among people around me or not? Whether people in my close relationships evaluate me rightly or not? etc. If we feel that other person with whom we are spending time is not of our kind then we start feeling repulsion and find out some other person to spend time with. If we feel that a person with whom we have spent a long time and shared a good friendship has got some doubts in his mind for us then we try to convince him that things are not the way he is taking them or something similar and try to get the relationship back to normal. Even if we do not try to get the relationship back to normal through our actions but our expectation is always that the things become normal. When we confront a person with whom we feel that he doesn’t think good about us then this thing pricks us. All these things keep happening with all of us whether we pay attention to them or not.

In fact if we see closely then we find that the Desires/Expectations/Questions related to the balloons on the Left Side of the picture are Dominating and are Ever Actively Present/Working.

When we feel that we are not being rightly evaluated by people around  us or our intention is under doubt by people around us then our complete attention remains on the those people only. We always keep on evaluating ourselves and themselves and things which would have made them to wrongly evaluate us and we are always in the process to prove ourselves right in our eyes or we sometimes even fight with them to prove them wrong! We do not even enjoy things on the right side of the picture when we are this kind of situation. We do not enjoy music, movies, luxury, comfort and even we find ourselves unable to concentrate on things related to our career.  If we feel that there are no problems in the desires related to the Left Part of the picture then we are able to enjoy things on the right part without any problem. In fact in this case even if we do not have much of things on the Right Side of the picture then it is fine, but if there are problems in the desires/expectations related to the Left Part of the picture then we generally try to fill that void with the things on the Right Side of the picture and it becomes essential for us to have things on the Right Side to fill that void.

When our desires/expectations related to Left Side are being fulfilled we do not even come to know and when they are not being fulfilled we find some substitute for them from the Right Side, which doesn’t substitute it for long and problem persists!

If we observe closely then generally we try to ensure things related to Left Part of the picture with the Right Part of it. We feel that with good career, comfort, luxury, position, power, beauty etc. we will start looking good to people around us, we will get respect, we will get recognition, our relationships with people will improve and many other things. Our possessions become our basis of Respect and Trust with people around us. If we feel lack of possessions then we feel that we lack value in society and come under pressure. If we have a lot of possessions and a lot of value in the society and we find that it is going to shake then we get terrified due to fear of loosing Respect and Trust of people around. I have seen many examples when people did suicide when they got 2nd rank in exam because they have been getting 1st since ages and there are many more examples like this.

If we notice then the desires which are on the Left Side of the picture are Continuous within us with respect to Time. The basic desire behind the questions on the Left Side of the picture is of willingness to live with Trust and Respect. We want to live with Trust and Respect continuously. This willingness to live with Trust and Respect is there within us Continuously and is Ever Actively Present. There is never a time when I do not expect people around me to Trust me and there is never a time when I do not expect people around me to Rightly Evaluate me or Respect me!

Due to lack of understanding of Trust, Respect and Happiness we try to fulfill desires on the Left Side with the Right Part of the picture and it doesn’t fulfill it.

Generally we recognize ourselves with “something outside us”. We recognize ourselves with our Position, Power, Money, Beauty, Intellect and many more things. When I recognize myself with something like this then I expect others around me to look at me the way I look at myself. If I feel that I am beautiful then I expect others around me to recognize this fact that I am beautiful and to look up at me, similarly if I am positionful, powerful, moneyful or even if I feel that I am intellectually mature then I expect others around me to recognize me as a positionful, powerful, moneyful or an intellectually mature person. When they do it I feel Respected, I feel good with them, I feel related with them. When they do not do it then I feel disrespected, I feel bad, I feel a kind of repulsion/opposition with them.

When there is mismatch in My Perception towards Myself and Others Perception towards Myself then it hurts me and in Most of the cases we spend our energies to change others perception towards us, either by hook or by crook or even by violence! This is where we all or in fact entire world is!

In reality what need to be changed is our own perception towards ourselves. It is lack of understanding of ourselves about ourselves is the root cause of all our problems.

To understand Trust, Respect, Happiness etc. we need Knowledge.

Knowledge includes, complete understanding related to,
Self,
Family,
Society,
Nature.