This is not about any advertisement line. It is a short narration of a same incident on 3 different days.
Day1:-
I was going to my office. From Kothaguda to Hi.Tech city autowalla takes 4 Rs. I sat in Auto, reached Hi.Tech city, he asked me 4 Rs, I gave him.
Day2:-
I was not in good mood this day due to some reason.
I was going to my office. From Kotaguda to Hi.Tech city autowallas have increased the price to 5 Rs and I was unaware of it. I sat in Auto, reached Hi.Tech city, he asked me 5 Rs! I said, “Bhaiya 4 lagta hai”. He started shouting at me. Since I was not in good mood this day, his words increased the intensity of my bad mood. I was angry inside. I did not manifest my anger on him, but I wanted to! I gave him 5 Rs and left the place.
Day3:-
I was in very good mood this day.
I was going to my office. From Kotaguda to Hi.Tech city autowallas take 5 Rs. I sat in Auto, got down at half the distance from Hi.Tech city, he asked me 5 Rs! I said, “Bhaiya 4 lagta hai”. He started shouting at me. Since I was in good mood this day, his words did not affect me at all. My inside state did not change. I gave him 5 Rs and left the place. In fact if this day he would have asked me for 10 Rs for the same distance I would have given him without any problem.
There is something very important to see in here.
When I am in good mood, uncertainties of external environment doesn’t affect me much. If I am in bad mood and if my external environment is not according to my expectations then it really affects me.
So is it really the external environment which affects me? Is it really the external environment which is the cause of my problems? Is it really other person who is making me unhappy?
When a human being is unhappy inside, he expects his external environment to be certain according to his expectations. When a human being is happy inside, uncertainties of external environment does not really affect him, rather he is able to see the uncertainty from a distance i.e without getting himself affected by the problem and is able to empathize with other person if he is doing something wrong.
This is something which I feel is very important and is the root cause of the problems which we see within ourselves, in our family, in our relationships, in our society and even in nature.
A human being naturally expects Certainty, Consistency, Continuity of Happiness. When he is Happy within, he spreads and shares his happiness with others. When he is unhappy within he expects to get happiness from his environment, by expecting Certainty, Consistency and Continuity of external environment according to his all expectations.
This is the root cause of problems like domination, jealousy, hatred, opposition etc. which we see in the society and which we all do not want. But due to lack of understanding of the root cause of problem we keep blaming other person that other person is making me unhappy and other person should be corrected for my happiness. And the fact remains that even if the other person is corrected my possibility to get angry/jealous/hatred etc. with some other person remains available and if I get hurt with that some-other-person again then I want that some-other-person to be corrected. In this way we never take the responsibility of our own Happiness. We feel that it is other person’s responsibility to make me happy and we ourselves are unaware of this feeling/assumption.
Now the question comes, what is Happiness then? If my Happiness is dependent on my external environment then am I ever going to be Happy? So what is the solution?
Solution is, Knowledge.
It is the lack of understanding within an individual(ourselves) at all the levels of his/our living, is the root cause of all the problems which we see at all the levels of our living today.
It is Knowledge which helps us understanding, Happiness, Trust, Respect, Confidence etc. which are the basic requirement of a human being. In lack of understanding of these we tend to fulfill these requirements through other people around us and it gives rise to the situation like two beggers are trying to snatch the coins from each other’s bowl!
Since it starts from my own internal environment, how my external environment would be, so I said, “Ye andar ki baat hai”.
Knowledge includes, understanding related to,
Self
Family
Society
Nature
Tribulations of A Fledgling Mind 
Hey debu,
very true. It often happens that we try to channel our frustration out when we can’t solve the problem within. The incident that you’ve described here is what we come across, in some or the other form, everyday. But it’s little unusual that you felt angry. And i thought only i was impatient.
hmm …next time when you are in good mood let me know….
I’ll give you 4 tight slaps and then will ask you for a treat coz “external environment” won’t effect you lol 😀
n after reading this comment if u are feeling bad then again its not my fault there is some thing wrong within you go improve yourself lol 😀
@parminder hope u agree with me bander 😀
@Anonymous:
Good comment!
Thanks for giving me this opportunity to test myself and improve!
oh man, no matter how you feel it is really stupid to let money have an affect. It is quite trivial, this commodity, called money
lol anonymous
@Rahul:
I think there is some mis-communication. It is not only about money. The point which I wanted to highlight was that when your mood is off then even if you have a tea and you do not find its taste as per your expectations, it irritates you.
It is the mood which decides our reaction/response to things happening around us.
i got that, was just saying that bringing in the matter of Re.1 wasn’t the brightest choice ever made
@Rahul:
I understood. It is not the matter of 1 Rs. I said that on Day 3 I was ready to give him 10 Rs even. When my mood was not good and he started shouting at me then it increased the intensity, that’s the only thing. Now if it is bad taste of tea or 1 Rs, that’s not the point of my attention.
Hey Debu!!
Very Wrong… 😉
I havn’t read full post, but I believe if premise is wrong, it doesn’t matter if I read full post.
Why are you taking ‘mood’ in its absoluteness.
Mood/’andar ki Happiness’ depends on external things. Your mood is not that it is happy/unhappy automatically and after it is what it is(happy/unhappy) then over this external things affect.
Mood is happy/unhappy because external things are happy/unhappy. Of course, you can argue along the lines of Geeta, that believe in Karma. Make your mind neutral(I believe in that). But precisely that thing also comes from external things.
If I am confronted with frustrating thing then I will have to push my mind to bear it in neutral way. If I confront happy thing then I will have to push my mind not to be overtly happy. In any case I will need to change my state of my mind to keep it neutral so that external things don’t affect(don’t affect, after summing up the things). But individually, external effort and my effort will always affect mind.
@Sukesh:
I really appreciate your comment. This is one comment which I think got the focus on the crux of the issue.
Good One!
You said,
“Mood/’andar ki Happiness’ depends on external things”
We differ at this assumption. You say that Mood is dependent on external things. It implies that I am bound to be unhappy. If not today then tomorrow. But the fact remains that a human being naturally expects certainty, consistency and continuity of happiness. It is only the happiness for which every action of a human being is being driven. It is only the happiness, the hope of which keeps a human being alive. If one feels that one is bound to be unhappy and there is no alternative for happiness then the purpose of life itself is gone. There is no purpose of life then.
There are two kinds of needs a human being has, Emotional and Physical. Emotional need includes Unconditional Trust and Respect from other human being with whom he feels related and like. If we notice then our major sources of unhappiness are nothing but lack of understanding of Trust, Respect and Relationships. When I feel than people in my relationships do not trust me then I get hurt. In such a situation I can not enjoy chocolate, long drives, movies, songs etc. I want unconditional acceptance from people with whom I feel related and like.
The only thing I say is, when I begin to understand the meanings of Trust and Respect then my demand/expectation of Trust and Respect from other person decreases rather I start becoming Trustworthy to others and start respecting others. This begins to bring consistency in mood.
I do not say that I have completely achieved that state but Yes I want to and I am trying to!